When I became a stay at home mom back when my first was almost two, I admit, I was fearful. What was I supposed to do all day? Would I have anyone to talk to? Could I keep myself busy? Turns out my answers were, I have no idea, no, and no. But soon after the denial and guilt passed, I started really enjoying it.
Then I had another child. Being a stay at home mom is totally rewarding, trust me, but at the same time, I have problems I never thought I would. At least once a month you can find me hiding in my room with the door locked with crying children outside my door while I wonder if I should go back to work and make the husband deal with this. And I obviously have a
bowl carton full of ice cream in hand.
There’s other times when I need a vacation but refuse to go on vacation with the family because I realize it will just be more work to go – I’d have to pack everyone, clean the house so it’s nice and neat when we come home, then plan the vacation. Once we’re there, I’m with the kids more than if we had just stayed home and since they’re away from home, they’re not sleeping well so I’m up way earlier than normal, asleep way later than normal, and we’re spending absorbent amounts of money for this? No way.
But despite my complaints, I really wouldn’t trade my job for anything. I love staying home with my sweet
hellions angels, going to the park, going out to eat, lounging around watching movies in our free time. But in case you’re having a rough day like I am, let’s take a gander at these 8 stay at home mom problems that I’ve seen floating around social media.
1. Stay at home moms are on the clock 24/7. We wake up with the kids, get them ready for the day, feed them, take them to appointments and classes, put them to bed, and are on-call all night for bad dreams, waking up wet, and poor sleeping.
2. I’m not sure when it happened but laundry went from being a once a week thing to a daily thing. And the older the kids get, the more clothes they seem to have. I’m the mean mom who dumps all of the kids’ clothes in front of their closet door so they get to put everything away themselves but that doesn’t stop me from having a lot of other laundry including bedding, towels, and my own clothes. It’s never ending and there really is not a better feeling at times than when I finally finish laundry for the day.
3. My husband is one of the best out there but he also knows that I like to get a lot done. Often I can be found in my pajamas at 4 in the afternoon and whether or not I actually accomplished something is at times, a totally different story.
4. I’m guilty of using baby talk to my friends … and my friends’ husbands … and people I don’t know. When you’re at home all day with a baby, it just happens. This is why I need more friends.
5. I don’t have many hobbies (because I simply don’t have time or energy for one) but some days I dream of all that I might be able to accomplish if the kids were at school. Five years ago when my little baby was … a baby … I had big dreams of working and volunteering my days away while the kids were at school. Now I realize that I just wanted to be a stay at home mom without the kids at home.
6. Being a stay at home mom means you work all day. Even if you aren’t directly working with the kids or the house, you’re still there, just waiting until the moment the kids need to be picked up, waiting for the laundry to be done, waiting for your food to finish cooking. I think stay at home moms have the toughest job and are the ultimate hard workers.
7. Weekends and holidays are working days. In fact, in my house, they are the hardest working days. The kids are home most of the days on weekends and holidays and that means they’ll need food for every meal and entertainment.
8. When the kids are home, stay at home moms are on the clock and the little ones seem to be the most needy. I’ve stopped locking my doors because it usually ends with yelling (“Mom! Something’s wrong with the door! Let me in!”), crying (“Mommy! I just need you!”), or playing with the door until I unlock it.
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