I have a friend who grew up middle class but because of the situation she has put herself in, she has moved herself down to lower class. It’s not really a problem. They still have a house, food, and a car but as she’s so smart, I know she can accomplish so much more. Unfortunately, her ADD can get the best of her and has taken her from job to job to job where she just hopes to get $10/hour which isn’t much as it’s the income providing for her young family.
For myself, I hope for much more. For my husband, I hope for more. And for my children, I hope that they will be way more successful than their parents. However, unlike my friend, my husband and I are able to give them the environment in which they should be able to succeed. My daughter is on the fast track to competing in gymnastics at age 5 and for my son, well, I will put him in whatever sport or activity he wants to do. My son goes to a private preschool while my daughter attends a charter school where she can learn and grow in a slightly better environment than public school, even though the public school is literally right around the corner from our home. When my husband has a new business idea, we don’t squash it because of finances. We attempt it and when his ADD gets the best of him, we are able to let the idea go without too many complications. And as for me, my parents and my husband have given me every opportunity to get out there and do what I love, hence, blogging.
I think back to my friend. She does not have to live with her parents with her 3 kids. She doesn’t have to hope for $10/hour. She can excel. One day, if she can stay focused, I know that she could own a successful company. That’s just how her brain works. But to get there, she’ll need to get herself out of the rut she’s in and be able to create an opportunity for herself. I don’t want to sound stuck up while I’m shoving my friend in a hole because that’s not what I’m trying to do at all.
Today, I want you to know that your life is what you make of it. My husband grew up as the youngest of 6 children, raised by only his mother. She worked long hours to make sure they had a roof over their heads and some food on the table. He didn’t get opportunities for sports or lessons. He walked himself many blocks to school each day. He started working at age 14 so he could afford things. His church helped the family by supplying food each month to his family. His family never knew any sort of wealth.
At age 23, my husband applied for and got his first salaried job which gave us more money than we knew what to do with. A few months after that he got a different job with a large salary increase. And a year after that, another job with another increase. We had so much money saved in the bank that we were ready to put a large sum down on a home.
Instead, we decided to take a chance. We risked it all and my husband went to work for himself to try to get a business started. After a few failed attempts at businesses a few years later, we were left with almost no money, no energy, 2 kids at this point, and an unhappy life. Our drive and determination, however, put us right back where we wanted to be. Maybe not as wealthy as we had been years earlier, but we were happy again. My husband luckily found a full-time job that offered enough that we could at least buy a home and not live in my mother-in-law’s basement (who, by the way, charged us rent each month which didn’t help with our poor financial situation). Before we had only had about $200 per month to spend on food and we were finally able to live again and have an abundance of fresh food on the table each day. Each day we still have to work hard to save up our money. We are not living like the wealthy by any means, however, we have enough and we’re happy.
If you’re unhappy with your current situation, find a way out. It’s hard, I know, but I also know it’s worth it. The following video made me so happy. Here’s a girl who was set up for failure. She should have grown up to be a drug addict but she completely changed her life around. It gives me motivation to continue to improve my own life on a daily basis. No one can tell me what to be. I get to decide.