Okay. So we’ve been going through some things at our house. The last 5 months hasn’t been exactly easy between losing a child and other people in our life. We changed our landscape in our yard a bit, we’re painting the rooms in our house, our kids are starting new things, learning new things (I live in my car a lot), starting businesses, filming a movie, and trying to keep up with all the other things that happen in life with family and careers. You know, it’s just been busy.
I’ve noticed my husband has been on edge lately with people who are wasting his time. In fact, I know at work he’s probably quite obnoxious because he speaks his mind. Our world isn’t use to things like people speaking their minds. We’re still coming off of the previous generations raising us where people should keep opinions to themselves and be “respectful” by not saying anything.
Well you know what I’ve realized because of how he’s treating his life and how he’s handling work situations? Life is too short to put up with crap.
We lost a child we thought was supposed to be ours because the government said that another couple could have the child. We went along with it because it was the rules. Despite us waiting for this child since she was only 5 months in the womb, before she was even born, of course, another family should get her because they’re related by blood, not by adoption like us. We sat silently by as a van pulled into our driveway, as we had to load all of her belongings into the van, and then buckle her into the van and watch her drive away, confused. We didn’t do anything. We hardly even tried to do anything because rules are rules, right?
You know what I’ve done since? I’ve asked for discounts on the most random things. I’ve started two more businesses in fields that I never thought I’d be in. I’ve spoken to random people about random things. I’ve made friends I would normally wouldn’t be friends with. It’s not that these aren’t things I didn’t do before this whole child situation, it’s just that I’m seeing life differently.
I want to love what is going on in my life.
I want to wake up each morning and think, “I’m so excited for this day.”
I want to go to bed each day and think, “That was a really good day.”
I don’t want anyone else in my life telling me that I can’t do something because of some rules.
I don’t want anyone in my life bringing me down because of whatever is going on in their life.
My life is too short to waste on crap. The things I’m doing each day should be worth it. If they’re not, I’m moving on.
And you know what? You should, too. Why spend each day living in someone else’s expectations? Why can’t you say what you want and do what you want? You want to start that business? You should. You want to be friends with that really amazing person? You should. Someone has really been bothering you? Let them go!
Live for you. Make your life worth it. Don’t worry about everyone else. You do you.