I am the kind of person who likes to be right and I don’t mind fighting for my opinion and what I think is right. I know it’s gotten me in trouble multiple times but when someone believes something about me or assumes something about me that is incorrect, I’m going to fight for myself.
On the other hand, when I know when I’m not right, I just let it go. I like to be right, but not right about my wrong.
There have been multiple times in my life when I have been told that I am a certain way or that what I believe is incorrect. I’ve been told I’ve done things wrong and that I’ve created a mess. And I fight it hard. I understand why they say what they have but I feel as though they don’t understand why I did what I did or why I act like I do and so discussions, arguments, battles can last and last because I won’t have my good name spread around as a poor subject.
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints holds a General Conference every 6 months, once the first weekend of April and again the first week of October. There, church leaders give speeches about varying topics and give inspiration to listeners. There are 6 sessions total, 4 sessions for everyone, 1 session specifically for women, and 1 session specifically for men. During one of the sessions, a lead church authority reads off the names of the General leaders (prophet of the church and similar leaders) and after each group, the authority asks for a sustaining. If you sustain these leaders, then you raise your right hand. If you do not, then you can raise your hand when asked if there are any that are opposed to the sustaining.
Last April marked a huge moment in General Conference history when multiple audience members throughout the Conference Center (a large building in Downtown Salt Lake City, Utah where General Conference is held) stood up and shouted that they were opposed to the sustaining. Many members of the church felt upset at what happened. Immediately after the opposing votes, the leader, President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, immediately said, “The vote has been noted.”
Now, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints has stayed up-to date with what is going to happen at General Conference as much as it can and knew beforehand that there would be audience members who opposed the vote. But me being someone who does not like it when someone does not like me or does not approve of me, I know I would find it difficult to stand or sit in front of everyone including those hundreds of thousands watching it on a screen and listen to people opposing that I hold the position that I do. It would be unsettling and unnerving. Yet these church leaders, mostly President. Uchtdorf, continued on without even a blink. It did not startle him in the least.
This idea of basically saying, “it has been noted” has had me thinking a lot recently about how I react to others. I don’t like when someone doesn’t understand me. I don’t like when someone doesn’t like me. And I really don’t like when someone thinks I’m making the wrong choices. There are a few people in my life that I just cannot get along with for various reasons but while I was with one person in particular the other day, I tried to remember the phrase, “It has been noted.”
As she was trying to tell me how she thought I should do specific things in my life, I could feel my blood pressure start to raise. My face felt hot and I could not even clearly think anymore. Given most situations, I would have made an excuse and left the area. However, on this certain occasion, I decided to stay where I was and after she finished, I said, “I understand. It has been noted.”
I’m sure it sounded slightly ridiculous but this phrase has changed my life. Honestly, how often are we offended by things people say or do or how often do we want to argue with someone just to prove we’re right while we know no one will budge and no one will win? How great would it be to be able to say or think each time, “It has been noted,” and then be able to move on?
The next time a situation is happening where you feel like someone is judging wrongly or telling you that you are wrong, I encourage you to say out loud or simply think, “It has been noted,” and move on. I promise you that eventually you will feel much better. Oddly enough, it will give you a sense of freedom and a sense of calmness unlike arguing can ever provide.